Attraction

This will be my first post, because it is the absolute most mind-blowing and odd thing about any of us.

Attraction: the force by which one object attracts another
wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

Why is this primarily a physical thing? Why haven't we seen through this yet?
It's like people that think puppy dogs are cute, but don't like dogs... Well, how was their cuteness effective in this situation?
None. Zip. Nada.
I want to be attracted to someone because what spills out of their mouth is something I long to hear.
End of story.
I don't want to be attracted to someone because they count calories and go to the gym.
I hope that they are healthy, so they feel good. Not fanatical about their physical appearance.
There's no fun in that. 

So, why do I feel alone on board of the mind vs. matter ship?

Secondly, what kind of force (daddy issues would be my guess) would make it seem okay for girls to stand around half naked and have pictures taken of them?!?